Every person’s tied to a bundle of mistakes they’ve committed at some point in their life. The thing is, it’s always one of the two. We either know it’s a mistake but do it anyway, or we don’t and later on label it as one. We can’t undo them or erase them, all we can do is try to repair damage caused and remove the negativity that weighs us down by doing good that puts that mistake to bed. Talking to a friend today inspired me. It was something she said that got me thinking; “He was a mistake for everything he did to me, and I was a mistake for everything that I was”. It was a statement so deep that it inspired a flow of thoughts.

Some people preach that no matter what you do in life or whom you meet, you should live with no regrets. For with every experience or encounter you get something, whether it’s a lesson learnt or valuable knowledge gained. Personally I find it hard to have no regrets because we always end up wondering “What if”; the thought that everyone has come across at one point or another. “What if I did ‘that’ then maybe ‘this’ wouldn’t have happened” or “If I could go back in time I wouldn’t have done ‘that’ and maybe things would be different right now”. It’s in our make up as human beings to contemplate and wonder.

Can we really call that the fundamental blocks of a person, the bits and pieces that make us who we are mistakes? In my opinion we can’t. What I see as true doesn’t necessarily have to be true for others and vice versa. A part of my personality can be seen to be completely wrong and out of place to one person, but on the other hand someone else might see it as something of quality. Its not who we are but more what we do. Even though who we are plays a vital role in our actions, we are always given a choice in those short moments in between thought and action.

As Newton’s saying goes, “to every reaction there is an equal and opposite reaction”, we find that some people will always find it in their hearts to react with good and kindness no matter what is thrown their way, some would call that being naïve, I call it being pure. Being a bigger person. Some find that the only way to counter a negative or bad action is to react in the same way. I call that being either small minded or without self-control.

We all know when we make mistakes, either that little voice in our head keeps pounding or someone we know informs us with reason but at the end of the day we can only change what’s within ourselves and not what’s in everyone else.

To all the people out there who are stuck in their past or current mistakes, this is to let you know that making a mistake only means you’re human. If it’s someone else’s mistake that’s got you tied down, let go; forgive and forget. If God can be remarkably forgiving then why can’t we take a spec of that attribute and make it a part of what we are. If it’s you that’s done something you are ashamed of, or aren’t happy with, then change what it is that was the cause, all it takes is belief, faith and will power. Like the saying says “you are not a tree.” Mistakes come along with the package of life, their intensity on the other hand, depends on you.